As Valentine’s Day gets closer, and amidst all the fluff of external expressions of love, it’s essential not to overlook the most important relationship of all…
The one you have with yourself.
Self-love, self-acceptance, and self-compassion are key elements of a fulfilling and balanced life, yet they’re often neglected.
As we shower affection onto others, it’s important to remember to replenish our own well of self-love, for only when we love ourselves can we truly love others authentically and wholeheartedly.
“The doors to the world of the wild Self are few but precious. If you have a deep scar, that is a door, if you have an old, old story, that is a door. If you love the sky and the water so much you almost cannot bear it, that is a door. If you yearn for a deeper life, a full life, a sane life, that is a door.” – Clarissa Pinkola Estés
If you find yourself without a romantic partner this Valentine’s Day, remember…
You’ve got yourself!
And trust me, you’re not lacking in love.
There are countless ways to cultivate self-love and appreciation, regardless of your relationship status.
7 Ways to cultivate self-love
Here are some of my favorite ways to pour some sugar on me:
1. Practice self-care rituals
Set aside dedicated time each day to indulge in activities that nourish your mind, body, and soul.
Whether it’s taking a long bath, going for a walk in nature, practicing yoga, or simply curling up with a good book, prioritize activities that make you feel happy and rejuvenated.
2. Treat yourself with kindness
Be gentle with yourself, especially in moments of self-doubt or criticism.
Instead of dwelling on your flaws or mistakes, practice self-compassion and remind yourself that you are worthy of love and acceptance just as you are.
3. Celebrate your accomplishments
Take pride in your achievements, no matter how big or small.
Whether you aced a work project, reached a personal milestone, or simply made it through a challenging day, celebrate your successes and acknowledge your efforts.
Say to yourself, as if you were talking to your best buddy…
“I am proud of you, [add your name]”, “You deserve to be happy, [add your name]”.
4. Set boundaries
Learn to say no to things that drain your energy or compromise your well-being.
Prioritize your own needs and make self-care a non-negotiable part of your daily routine.
5. Practice gratitude
Take time each day to reflect on the things you’re grateful for, whether it’s the support of loved ones, the beauty of nature, or the simple pleasures of everyday life.
Cultivating an attitude of gratitude can help shift your focus from what you lack to what you have.
6. Invest in personal growth
Pursue activities and interests that bring you joy and fulfillment, whether it’s learning a new skill, exploring a hobby, or embarking on a journey of self-discovery.
Invest in your growth and development, and prioritize your happiness and well-being.
7. Be your own cheerleader
Instead of seeking validation and approval from others, learn to cheer yourself on and celebrate your own successes.
Cultivate a positive inner dialogue and remind yourself of your strengths, talents, and worthiness.
So, as you shower love onto others, don’t forget to give yourself the gift of self-love, self-acceptance, and self-compassion.
Remember that you are worthy of love, both from others and from yourself, and that the most important relationship you’ll ever have is the one you have with yourself.
So, go ahead, embrace self-love wholeheartedly, and watch as it transforms every aspect of your life for the better.
Happy Valentine’s Day to you, beautiful soul.